As with all relationships that end in break ups, there are some reasons to get back together, some reasons not to get back together and there are also benefits and drawbacks of rekindling a relationship with your partner. At the end of the day, however, you have got to weigh out the benefits and drawbacks for yourself, and decide whether you would like to get together with your ex boyfriend, and he has got to decide whether to get back together with you. The bottom line here is that the decision to get back together lies with both of you. It doesn’t just come from one person. Once you both realize this, then you both can move forward to a solution.
You are reading this because either your ex boyfriend is trying to get back together with you, or you are trying to get back together with your ex boyfriend. Even if either of you are considering these things, you both have to take into account what is going on in the other person’s life. If your ex boyfriend clearly does not want you in his life anymore, then it is best not to pursue it any further. But if you are the one who broke it off, and you would like to make amends, then your chances of getting back together with an ex are pretty good. You must clean up your act and get yourself looking good, fresh and confident. Then you should be open and honest with your ex boyfriend as to why you broke up with him in the first place and what changed recently to make you want him back.
If, however, your ex boyfriend is trying to get back with you, then you have to look at what he is doing in his life. How is he improving himself? How has he corrected the problems that were present when both of you were in a relationship? These are some of the questions you have to ask yourself. Then you can decide if you want to take him back or not. Getting back together with an ex can be beneficial or counteractive, depending on what grounds both of you are rekindling the relationship.
Let us suppose that you do get back together with your ex boyfriend and he has not changed the bad habits that helped break the relationship up. Then chances are the relationship will go down the same path as it did when you both were previously hooked up. Ask yourself: Why would you want to get back with your ex? Should you get back with your ex? Why does your ex want to get back with you? Some of these questions are to be asked with the utmost importance and urgency when you find yourself in a situation where you are deciding whether or not getting back together with an ex is a viable idea, especially if it is an ex boyfriend who you have broken up with or has broken up with you.