Every now and again, a relationship problem comes up. Sometimes either one or both of you are prepared to handle it. You two may be able to give each other advice. But, every once in a while, there comes a time where both of you may need some relationship problem advice from someone else. When you do, there are several important things to consider.
First, talk to each other about it. It does not hurt to revisit the issue a couple of extra times so you both can be sure you covered all the ground you feel could be covered. Sometimes, it could be a simple misunderstanding in the way someone said something. Other times, it could be the way that person felt. And still other times, it could be what that other person did. In many cases, it’s a combination of either one or more of all of those things. The skill here is to focus on what was missed and how you both can correct the mistake in a loving way.
Second, if you and your partner cannot seem to work it out yourselves, then it is wise to see a church counselor or community counselor. The benefits of discussing your relationship problem with your counselor is that you get a fresh, new perspective on the situation, and therefore this might lead you down the path of a more informed decision to solve the problem. Counselors are also good for developing coping strategies for any past pains either one or both of the partners may have with other people.
Even though it may be embarrassing to go see a counselor, it is certainly worth the appointment. Even if your partner or spouse does not want to go to counseling, you should strive to go by yourself. That way you can get a better perspective on how to approach the situation when you discuss it with your partner again. It does not even have to be marriage counseling. It can also be financial counseling or spiritual counseling.
Read some workbooks that either one or both of you can work on together. Not only is it fun, but it will help the both of you to bond together in ways you would have never imagined. Schedule a time where both of you can sit down and work on hypothetical situations together so that if the problems do arise in the future, both of you will be confident enough to work through them and come out stronger than ever.