With people too busy to go around the social scenes and meet new people, more and more innovative ideas on dating are being conceptualized. One of the newest ways to meet new people and possibly meet a new love is through speed dating.

Although the concept is actually not so new anymore in western countries, having been practiced for years now; it is enjoying popularity just now. Perhaps, this is because the idea of speed dating is more viable and much more needed now than before.

Speed dating, to those who are still clueless about the system, is a matchmaking process wherein people will meet and have a chance to talk for a short period of time. Often, people who join speed dating events are those who are also on the lookout for potential partners and relationships. This way, all people in the event know that everybody is serious about the dating process.

History speaking

Speed dating has its origins in the idea of Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah. He devised this way of dating for Jewish singles to meet each other and bond when in large cities such as New York where non-jews outnumber them. In fact, speeddating as a single word is a trademark that Aish has been using for his projects. The two-word speed dating phrase is a term used for other events with similar slant.

The first ever speed dating event happened in Beverly Hills in the late 1998. Because of good reviews, it became a commercial success and rapidly spread all throughout the United States. By the turn of he millennium, speed dating has become a by word in social circles especially after being portrayed in glamour shows like Sex and the City.

The process of speed dating

Speed dating start off with men and women on each side of the room. Each of these people will be given the chance to talk to the every member of the opposite sex in a series of short minute dates where they can talk about anything they want.

Often, the short dates will last from about three minutes to eight minutes depending on the organizer of the speed dating. These minutes are neither short nor long for people. Remember that you have to also take into consideration the discomfort that people who barely know each other will feel when forced to talk to each other. During the small talks, no one is allowed to give any numbers or other information apart from the names and other things that are not so personal.

After everyone has talked to everybody, the organizers will then ask the participants to submit to the organizers the list of people that they really like and would like to get to know more. These people are the ones they consent to give their number to. If the person one wants to get to know, also wants to get to know them, a match is made. Numbers will then be given to each one and it is up to them to set up their own dates so that they can get to know each other.

Speed dating, however is not done for free and to ensure that everybody in the event is legitimate, preregistration is encouraged. However, there are event organizers who allow walk ins to join the party. When you go to these events, make sure that the organizers are already established.

Do you love using the internet to meet and talk to new people? If so, there is a good chance that you have heard of social networking websites before. If you have not, you will want to familiarize yourself with them because they are rapidly becoming the most popular way to communicate with others online.

If you weren’t already aware, social networking websites are website that essentially act as an internet communities. While all social networking websites have their own rules and restrictions, many websites operate in a similar way, with similar goals. Their goals are to allow internet users to connect with other internet users online, often from all around the world. What is nice about social networking websites is that they come in a wide variety of different forms. There are many websites that are considered “general,” websites. These websites do not really have any particular focus, but there are social networking websites that do have a particular focus. Those focuses often include dating, religion, and school.

If online social networking seems interesting to you, you will have to find a community to join. You can easily do this a number of different ways. By speaking to those that you know, on and offline, you could be alerted to popular social networking websites. You can also find these websites on your own by performing a standard internet search. Whether you perform your own search or rely on recommendations from others, it is likely that you will find a fairly large number of social networking websites. Just a few of those websites that may find include Classmates, Orkut, Yahoo! 360, and MySpace.

Orkut is Google’s version of a social networking website. This website was created and officially launched in 2004. Orkut has a large number of member, form all around the world. What is nice about Orkut is that the system is easy to use, that is once you get in. To protect their social networking communities, a large number of social networking websites, including Orkut, have restricted access to the site. If you are interested in joining Orkut you must know someone who is already a member and they must invite you to join the community. If you do not personally know any Orkut member, there is a good chance that you could connect with and obtain an invitation from someone you meet online.

Classmates is an online social networking website that is rapidly increasing in popularity. This website focuses on connecting long lost friends or old classmates. Classmates is free to use, but you must become a paying member to enjoy many of their member benefits. These benefits include, but are not limited to, searching for old classmates, reading their profiles, requesting more information from your classmates, or even contacting them.

MySpace is another popular social networking website that can be found online. In fact, MySpace is known as being the most popular online social networking website. They currently have over one hundred million members! MySpace, like many other social networking websites allows you to create your own profile, in fact, your own personal page. Once your page has been created, you can easily invite other members to become a member of your network and visa versa. In addition to having a traditional profile page, with your personal information, you can also display a large number of pictures, video clips, and music clips. Although there are a number of features that makes MySpace so popular, the most popular reason for its popularity is that fact that it is completely free to use.

As previously mentioned, MySpace, Classmates, and Orkut are just a few of the many social networking websites that you can find online. Additional sites include FriendFinder, Yahoo! 360, and more. To learn more about each of these sites or to join their community, you are advised to visit their online websites and request additional information. You should be able to find these websites by performing a standard internet search.

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There are people who believe that there is a soul mate for every person in the world. This individual may be of the same or opposite gender, which really depends on one’s sexual orientation.

The only way to find the other half that will complete oneself is by going out and meeting other people. Unfortunately, those who are caught up with work don’t have the time to mingle with others in bars and parties which is why many prefer speed dating especially in the city of Chicago.

Speed dating allows the person to meet someone and talk about different things for 10 to 15 minutes each. A scorecard is there to rate the individual and if both parties feel the same way, perhaps this could become the start of something big.

This activity is for everyone who is single. Professionals organize these events. The person can check the Internet or look in the classified ads when this will take place in order to sign up.

Hurrydate.com is one of the organizations that are there to help the lonesome. The people who run the event do this once a week in a bar or a café somewhere in the city so the single guy or girl can mark the date on the calendar and get off work a little earlier.

It will be a good idea to come in 15 to 30 minutes before it begins to be able to get a drink and then look around.

8minutedating.com is another website that can help the individual find the better half. It does the same thing that other speed dating services done except that talking getting to know someone must be done in 8 minutes before it is time to move to the next table and meet someone new.

The person can visit the website and then become a member. The advantages for those who join this online community is that the individual will get emails informing when and where the next one will be held. There is also a discount upon registration when attending the event.

Some of the speed dating services in Chicago just post an ad inviting single people to attend the party. There are no discounts here or memberships so those who want to join will have to pay a flat fee inclusive of one drink.

There are times that at the end of the event that person will not get matched up with anyone in the group. Should this happen, the individual is entitled to the next one free of charge making one feel there is still hope out there in finding the better half.

But speed dating per se is not just for those who want to find the perfect mate. There are those who attend to be able to meet new people and use it to build a network. The intentions of everyone who decide to come are different because a relationship does not develop overnight.

The secret to speed dating in the city of Chicago or anywhere else is to be yourself. This means being honest and open to the other person because those who don’t will feel the repercussions of this mistake later on.

The only thing that organizers will do is schedule the time and place where this will happen. It is up for the person to do the rest.

If you are considering going on a date or dating, then there are certain types of dating you can partake in for date dating – namely social dating, group dating and exclusive dating. There are distinct differences in each, and when you are aware of those differences, and your partner is too, then you will have a much better time.

Social dating consists of going out with someone in a public setting in order to get to know them better. If you want to go on a date with your partner, make sure you tell them what kind of date it is going to be. When they know what to expect, they will be more prepared for it and will be more likely to enjoy it. The pitfalls of not telling them what kind of date you would like to go on is that they may dress really nice for you, and you had wanted to go paint balling. This would likely be a disaster for both of you. Now, unless it is a surprise date, then it is necessary to talk about what you both want to do.

Group dating is one of the date dating methods available for people who either want to get their confidence up, or to see which person in the group they would like to go out on an individual date with later on. This is great to do especially if you are on a college campus or at a large church. The group can go to the beach and have a bonfire, or they can head over to an amusement park. If everyone is strapped for cash, then you all can go hiking or just meet somewhere public and have a couple of snacks, talk and play some boardgames. This is beneficial because if you originally had your eyes set on a couple of potential dating partners, then the group date will allow you to see which one you are most interested in seeing first. That will also give your potential partner to see if you are a good match for them as well.

Exclusive dating happens when two people have specifically set aside a time where they can spend alone with each other for a period of time without seeing anyone else. When you are “exclusive” with someone, then you both are not dating anyone else, and are focusing on learning more about your likes and dislikes. Learning the difference between these three will allow you and your partner to have a much better time with each other.

The way to get what you want through the Law of
Attraction is learning to control your thought
process. Negative thoughts produce as much energy as
positive thoughts.

Thinking about your fears and saying “I don’t want
that” is probably going to result in your fears being
realized. Cosmic energy is literal. It doesn’t
understand “I don’t want”.

It produces results based on energy. So if you’re
producing more negative energy than positive, your
results are going to be negative.

Training your mind to concentrate on the positive
instead of the negative is a necessary, but often
difficult process. People are worriers.

It’s a survival thing designed to help us remember and
avoid the dangers of life. But being aware of our
fears and letting them control our thoughts are two
different things. Turning the negative fears into
positive thoughts is the key.

Your thoughts are yours. They can be your faithful
servants or your masters. Which ever you allow them to
be. You have the control, you make your choice. You
determine which course your thoughts take.

Learning to control your thoughts can be done by
learning to control your will. By mastering yourself.
Phrases like “I am master of my self” can lead you in
the right direction.

Repeating these or similar words, and believing them,
will make them real. When confronted with fears and
doubts, remembering to “master” your thoughts keeps
the positive energy flowing. Leaving no room for the
negative energy to manifest..

It is hard to meet someone nowadays. Despite having bars and clubs all over the metropolis, it is hard to find someone who is looking for something really serious. And with today’s people all focus on their careers, most have no time to go around and meet new people.

One of the ways to meet new people fast and easy is through speed dating, which is rapidly gaining popularity since its beginnings in 1998 in Beverly Hills.

The concept of speed dating was actually thought of by a Rabbi who devised the system to help his community of believers to get to know each other and bond despite being in a large city, where the jewish population is next to nil. The concept clicked and become so successful that it has been incorporated into the dating scene.

Speed dating is actually quite simple. Men and women who are interested in finding potential partners or even activity partners will have to register with a speed dating organizer. Often, people who join the events are those who are seriously interested in forming lasting relationships with other people. Because of this, one can be sure that people in the group have good intentions. This is important especially when dealing with people who do not have the time to play games like the rest of the pack that are lounging in bars.

Participants in the speed dating event will then be given the opportunity to talk to each of the participants from the opposite sex. There will be a series of mini-dates that will last anywhere from 3 minutes to 8 minutes depending on the organizers of the speed dating event.

They can ask any question or talk about any topic that they want. Often, even in these few minutes, they will be able to know if their personalities will click or not. No one is allowed to give any contact numbers and other personal information until after each of the mini-dates.
After the event, they will then submit a list of names, who they want to get to know more and have contact even after the event. If the person one has chosen also chose them, a match is made and these people will then be given the opportunity to maintain contact through an exchange in phone numbers.

One way to break the ice among strangers is of course to ask questions that are relevant and pertinent. Often, the questions that you will be asking during speed dating will also help you determine if there is a chance for a match or not. This is how crucial questions in speed dating are. Below are some dos and don’ts in formulating questions during mini-speed dating dates.

1. Ask questions that they can answer and not just nod to. This means that you should be asking questions that will not allow them to answer you with either a yes or a no. Use open-ended questions. This is one way to determine if they are good conversationalists.

2. Don’t ask serious questions that are just too deep or too personal to answer. Save those questions when you really got to know the person or when you are out on a date after the event.

3. Ask for their interests. It may seem too clichéd but at least you will be able to find out if your interests will click or if you have similar ones.

The words, “I’m sorry” can get us out of trouble when we’ve done something wrong or hurt someone we care about but the key to a good apology is really meaning it and convincing the other person that you are truly remorseful. Apologizing just for the sake of keeping the peace is not an effective way to apologize. In doing so the recipient of the apology will most likely see through you and realize that your apology is insincere. A sincere and well timed apology, however, will help to mend the relationship that was harmed by your words or actions.

The most important way to prove that you are truly sorry for hurting someone is to ensure that the hurtful action is not repeated. Apologizing over and over while continuing to make the same mistake shows that your apology is not really sincere. On the other hand if you really mean that you are sorry for an action you will take careful steps not to repeat this action. Apologizing for your actions is one thing but being cautious not to repeat your actions really proves that you are indeed sorry.

Being specific regarding the reason for your apology also really proves that you are sorry. Many people are quick to offer an apology when they realize someone is upset with them but often they don’t take the time to figure out why the other person is upset. Apologizing without stating the reason for the apology shows that you don’t understand the problem and that you aren’t sincere in your apology. This is not an effective way to make an apology. However, if you offer a specific reason for your apology you are proving that you understand what you did to hurt the other person and that do not want to repeat that action.

Another way to prove that your apology is authentic is to be sure to offer the apology in person. Having a third party speak to the person you have offended or apologizing via email or voice mail conveys a lack of caring. This kind of apology shows that you aren’t truly sorry for your actions. Meeting with the person face to face to have a sincere conversation and offer your apology is one way to really prove that you are sorry. It shows that you care enough about the other person to meet with them directly to try to make amends for your contributions to the disagreement.

In apologizing, if you want to prove that you really mean it, be careful not to place blame on the person you are apologizing to. Your apology is about telling the other person why you believe that you did something wrong. While they may have contributed to the situation, now is not the time to point out their faults. Instead take full responsibility for what you have done wrong. Accepting full responsibility for your actions and apologizing for them without placing blame on the other person will prove that your apology is sincere.

A genuine apology will also include telling the other person why your actions were wrong and how you intend to avoid hurting them in the future. Doing this proves to them not only that you understand you were wrong but that you understand why you were wrong. It also lets them know that you have already formulated a plan of action to ensure that this situation does not arise in the future.

The timing of your apology can also help to prove that you really are sorry. Waiting too long to apologize may show that you don’t really care and that you are simply apologizing as an afterthought. An apology that is made too early may risk being ignored because the recipient of the apology is still too upset to listen to what you are saying.

It’s important to give the other person a chance to vent their anger and calm down before rushing to apologize. After a reasonable amount of time approach them and let them know that you understand their anger and believe that it is justified and that you wanted to give them a chance to calm down before apologizing.

Sometimes it is not enough to simply apologize for your words or actions. It is often necessary to not only apologize but to also prove that your apology is sincere. A truly sincere apology proves that you are sorry by addressing the issue and acknowledging what you have done wrong while validating the other person’s right to be angry and addressing how you will avoid similar actions in the future.

Childhood is where the foundation of men is built. It is when our minds are most absorbent to knowledge and learning. Yet it is also when our minds are most susceptible to damages of negative inputs.

What we experienced during childhood will be carried over through the rest of our lives. Though the effects vary largely, at times these may be subtly felt and at times, we feel like our reactions to stimuli are commanded by our perception of things.

Children don’t know these things though along with other things that are essential to living life fully. They are not even aware that the juncture they are presently into is the peak of initial development.

Having said all these, it is but important that each of us recognize our impacts to a child’s over all well being, from his childhood until he matures.

We have to realize that they look upon us as models. They have no concepts other than those that we imparted to them.

Thus, if we make them believe that they are not good and they cant do anything well then expect a pessimistic child. However, if at a very early stage we have made that child believe on his attributes and on what he is capable of doing, then the child we are looking at is someone who is ready to achieve, to sail on and to take life in its smooth handle. It all depends on how we train the individual and how we form his core values and beliefs.

Lack of encouragement may cause a child to be a bit less confident of himself. Couple this with frequent abusive words, you are sure to have a child that has crippled sense of self.

It is best to make a child realize how special and how worthy he is. After all, he would eventually replace us. Imagine if you have created a child who knows nothing about handling his sense of self.

If you would expose a child in an environment that would elicit in him concepts of low self worth then it would be likely that he would live in a state of unhappiness and discontentment. Low self worth is a state that is closely associated with feeling of unimportance, sadness, depression, inadequacy, diminished sense of self, insecurities, self loath and an over all sinking feeling.

Letting a child live in these conditions would deprive him of options for growth. Instead, he would have to endure self-sabotaging behaviors and decisions that are manifested through low self confidence. These things would then recreate other ways that lead to difficulties of maintaining relationships, struggles with self-harming acts and tendencies of giving up things.

Unless you want a child to suffer a life of miseries, you must be conscious of how you handle him, the things you are making him believe and the acts that you intend him to see. All these are essential in instilling a confident spirit in a child.

So you see, you as a parent or a model to which the child has learned to associate his respect and trust to is responsible of your actions towards the child. It is your responsibility to make that child believe of his worth. Depriving him of the gifts of self confidence is like denying him all the adventures and harvests of life.

If you’ve ever had your love break up you know how painful it is. And if you thought back after the relationship ended, you probably saw all the signs that you didn’t recognize before. If you’ll remember those signs and keep them in mind, they can help you prevent a break up in the future. And they can also help you get back together after a split.

One sure sign of impending love break up is the lack of physical contact. This doesn’t just mean sex. If your partner suddenly stops having an interest in sex, that’s a good sign that a break up is coming. But the normal flow and rhythm of a relationship has times when there’s lots of sex and times when there’s not much. This is natural.

A love break up is probably on the horizon though, if your partner stops holding your hand for no apparent reason. Or he or she stops putting an arm over your shoulder at the movies or in public when he or she always did it before. Any sudden changes like not touching you much outside the bedroom when your partner was always very affectionate before could signal problems.

If it goes beyond not touching to the person actually becoming uncomfortable at your touch, then you definitely need to have a conversation with your partner about what’s going on. Don’t just assume that because your partner flinched away from your touch that there’s about to be a love break up, though. Many things can cause a person to not want to be touched at any given moment.

A person might have been thinking of something else and been surprised or startled by the touch. He or she might think that your touch signals that it’s time to have sex, if you’re not very affectionate except when you want to be intimate. And maybe your partner isn’t in the mood for sex now and chose to show you that by moving away from your touch. That doesn’t mean you’re headed for a love break up.

Your partner might simply not feel good. Every change in a person’s behavior doesn’t signal an impending love break up or even anything wrong with the relationship. You have to watch them closely for a while to determine if some behavior is an occasional thing, something brought on only during certain times, or if it’s a permanent part of the person’s make up.

Catching your partner in lies, even what seem like small and harmless ones, could be a sign of problems, too. After all, if a lie is small and harmless, why tell it in the first place? Where there’s one tiny lie, larger and more damaging lies can grow. Don’t become convinced it’s a love break up right away though. People lie about many things that aren’t bad, like surprise parties and reunions. Your partner might be trying to keep a harmless and fun secret like that, instead of scheming about a love break up.

In the unlikely event you or one of your friends are a victim of dating violence, there are a number of steps you can take to rectify the situation. There are three main types of dating violence, including physical, emotional and sexual violence. It is important to understand the difference between the three, and what you can do in each of the three circumstances.

With physical violence, there is hitting involved. There can also be pushing, shoving or slapping around as well. Sometimes when the man slaps the woman, she does not call that abuse, but the fact is that it is physical abuse. Nobody should be shoved, pushed, slapped or even throw things. Usually, abuse starts with one of the partners giving a small push, or shove. Then it begins to escalate. You can tell when someone is being physically abused when they say things like “Oh, it was only a slap.” or “It was only a push.” If you or one of your friends is going through this, then they need to get out quickly.

Emotional abuse is when one or both partners starts yelling or calling you bad names. If they start bullying you around or making you feel horrible in public, then that is also a form of emotional abuse. If someone says that you deserve to be yelled at or be called names, that is also emotional abuse. The fact is that nobody deserves this kind of treatment. This type of dating violence is unacceptable. Don’t be fooled when your partner tries to make you feel better by buying you presents or being really nice to you the day following the abuse.

The dating violence that is also bad is sexual abuse. This when your partner tries to force you to kiss him or her without your permission. Keep in mind that if you are drunk, and someone tries to touch you or kiss you, that is also abuse because you are not in your right mind to consent to it. You should remain sober, or have an accountable partner with you watching you at all times.

If you want to tell that you are a victim of dating violence, then you can also check to see if your partner is constantly checking in on you or seeing where you’re at or what you’re up to. If he gets jealous or angry because you haven’t called him at least three times per day for example, then that is also abuse. Take all these things into account when identifying dating violence.