In some way or another, breaking up and staying friends is sort of like getting back together with an ex. Only this time you two will not have a romantic relationship. It will only be a platonic relationship. There are some benefits and drawbacks to this. Read further and then decide whether breaking up and staying friends is right for you.

In order to figure out if staying friends with your ex is worthwhile to you, you must figure out if either one of you still has strong feelings for each other. If either one of you still want to get back together romantically, then there can be no possibility of having a platonic relationship because there will always be some longing there to get really close.

One possibility of being able to stay friends is if you and your partner find partners of your own who satisfy your need for romantic and emotional love. At that point, you will likely have reached full closure and are now strong enough to have a friendship level relationship with your ex. One example of this scenario can be found on the Santa Claus movie with Tim Allen. His wife left him and found another man, while Tim found fulfillment somewhere else. They were both fulfilled, therefore they were comfortable being friends with each other, even though they were exes.

Another drawback of breaking up and staying friends is the very real possibility of one of you getting jealous once the other one begins to have a romantic relationship with another person. This is the downfall and most common reason of failed friendships between ex lovers. If one of you feels jealousy clamoring to the surface, then friendship after a relationship is not for you. More often than not, this scenario happens, and in order to prevent this, it is best to go cold turkey. Give yourself at least a couple of months before contacting them again.

Sometimes in order to feel the benefits of friendship, you do need to be apart for a couple of months. If this might sound awkward or counter intuitive, consider the fact that you don’t know what you have until you lose it. After a little time passes, you might realize what a friend you actually had. Or your partner might realize what a good friend you were and then come back to you with mended ways. Either way, a little time apart might do both of you some good.

The few benefits that do exist when staying friends after a breakup beg the question: Why? Why would you want to stay friends with your ex after a breakup? If your new romantic partner is okay with it, then that will be fine. But if they are not okay with it, then you will have to choose whether you want to continue the relationship with both them and your ex. Some people would view that as baggage while others would see it as something totally doable. It is entirely up to you.

Practicing safe sex greatly reduces the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

While no methods of safe sex, with the exception of abstinence, are 100% effective if you do engage in sexual activity, it is better to use protection because doing so is definitely much safer than not using any form of protection. While various forms of protection are not foolproof, using them will greatly reduce your risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or an unwanted pregnancy. While there are a multitude of safe sex methods available this article will outline only a fraction of these methods including, abstinence and monogamy, both male and female condoms, and oral contraception.

The only truly safe method of preventing both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases is abstinence. This is the only safe sex method that is 100% effective against both pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. While abstinence may be a completely foolproof safe sex method, it is also not the chosen safe sex method for very many people.

If you are unwilling to engage in abstinence as a safe sex method, it is highly recommended that you at least only engage in sexual activities with a monogamous partner. Monogamy means that neither you nor your partner are engaging in sexual activity with anyone else besides each other. Monogamy is not an effective method of birth control but it is effective at preventing sexually transmitted diseases.

As long as you and your partner are free of diseases, you will remain that way for at least as long as you remain monogamous. Abstinence and monogamy are both highly effective safe sex methods. Abstinence is effective at preventing both pregnancy and diseases while monogamy helps to prevent diseases only.

In terms of avoiding sexually transmitted diseases, the condom is one the only truly effective methods available. If used properly condoms can be very effective in preventing not only sexually transmitted diseases but also unwanted pregnancies. Male condoms are relatively inexpensive and are readily available in drug stores, grocery stores and even vending machines.

Condoms are also available in both male and female versions. The male condom is the one most often used. The male condom is a thin sheath, usually made of latex that fits over the penis and acts as a barrier to the exchange of bodily fluids during intercourse. If used correctly every time the male condom is 97%-98% effective against preventing pregnancy and is also highly effective in terms of preventing sexually transmitted diseases.

Even if they are not used correctly condemns are still 88%-90% effective in terms of preventing pregnancy. While condoms, if used correctly, are highly effective birth control methods as well as sexually transmitted disease deterrents, they are still not 100% reliable and you should understand that you still run the risk of pregnancy or disease even if you are using a condom.

The female condom is a polyurethane sheath that lines the entire vagina. The closed end is inserted into the vagina and the open end remains outside the body. The female condom has only been available since the 1990s and its high cost and scarce availability contribute to it not being used widely as a safe sex method. Both male and female condoms are effective methods for both avoiding pregnancy and preventing sexually transmitted diseases.

Use of oral contraception such as birth control pills is highly effective for preventing pregnancy but is not useful in preventing sexually transmitted diseases. Oral contraception is a pill that is taken daily and utilizes hormonal supplements to prevent pregnancy by creating an environment that is not conducive to fertilization. When used correctly the pill is 97%-99 effective in preventing pregnancy but does absolutely nothing to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

There are many side effects to using the pill but most of these side effects are relatively mild. Some side effects include weight changes, nausea, irritability and breast tenderness. Although none of these side effects are severe, fortunately, many of them can also be avoided all together. There are a variety of pills available on the market today and these pills vary in the amount of hormones that they contain.

If you are experiencing unwanted side effects with one version of the pill, speak to your doctor about your discomfort and they will probably be able to recommend another brand that will eliminate or diminish these side effects. While oral contraception is easy to use, free of severe side effects and highly effective against preventing pregnancy, it is not at all effective against preventing sexually transmitted diseases and if you are not positive that your partner is free of disease, you should always use another safe sex method to prevent these diseases.

Practicing safe sex can involve taking measures to avoid pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases or both. While abstinence is the only safe sex method that is 100% effective against pregnancy and STDs, there are other highly effective options for preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Monogamy with a disease free partner and condoms can help to prevent sexually transmitted diseases. Condoms along with birth control pills are also effective in terms of preventing pregnancy.

Baltimore is the biggest city in the state of Maryland. It boasts of being one of the most friendliest places in the country which is why more than 14 million tourists frequent the area making some call it charm city.

Those who are looking for love but are too shy to go out or are tied up with work may be able to see it happen by signing up on a speed dating service. Trained professionals will do whatever it takes for the person to find the better half.

A very popular website known here and in other cities is Hurrydate.com. The person can register online to be able to get alerts when and where the next event is taking place.

Another popular website is Cupid.com. Unlike other websites, the individual is not required to become a member. There is a registration period to join the event and those who choose to pay ahead of time online or by phone will get a discount.

Fastdater.com is a 3 minute service, which allows people to make new friends. Some might think that it is very hard to make an impression given the limited time but it has worked for some making it also happen for the person.

Lovehappens.com is also a website for speed daters to check out. The registration fee when compared with others on the web is much cheaper. This means the lonely heart out there can meet someone special without too much.

An interesting website which takes speed dating to the next level is Tableforsix.com. This is because 6 strangers share a meal together in the hopes of getting to know each other better. Sometimes it is easier to concentrate in a smaller group than having 20 or more because it is hard to keep note of everyone in just a short period of time.

The various speed dating website conduct the event either in a bar or a café. Each participant will be given a rating sheet later on should he or she would like to go out with the other person on a real date.

Some of these dates will work out while others won’t. Since speed dating services have this on a regular basis, the individual can always go back and attend another one in the hopes of meeting someone much better.

The key to speed dating is looking presentable. This means wearing something nice and always putting on a big smile. Studies have shown that looking happy has an amazing effect on others which just goes to show that first impressions last.

During the conversation, the person should be honest and learn to be oneself the whole time. The individual may find the one on the opposite end interesting but should not feel bad if the other party does not feel the same. Maybe the other person was looking for something else which is a fact of life.

Speed dating in the city of Baltimore is not just for those who are looking for someone of the opposite sex. This is because event organizers also make time to help those who are looking for the same gender.

The person should take the time to fill up the profile and then put under preferences who he or she wants to meet.

It’s a scientifically proven fact that mankind uses
only about 6% of our brains. Albert Einstein
supposedly used 10% of his. That leaves an awful lot
of untapped brain power.

Consider what we’ve accomplished with the little bit
of brain power we’ve been using since the dawn of man.
Is it so hard then to consider the possibilities of
what we could achieve?

The Law of Attraction, positive thinking or whatever
you want to call it, works on the premise that we’re
capable of determining what we have and how we live
with the power of our psychic energy.

The idea is that we’re able to direct our mental
abilities, our thoughts toward our goals and desires
and obtain them.

Granted this ability isn’t something that’s easily
obtained. Most people have spent their lives under the
impression that the world affects them. Not the other
way around.

It’s a generally held belief that if fate is
determined by us, it’s through our actions and not our
thoughts. But aren’t our thoughts the basis of our
actions?

If our thoughts cause us to act, and that action
results in obtaining our goal, can we not say our
thoughts were responsible for the results? The results
of our actions are determined by our thoughts. Whether
they’re conscious or not, our thoughts do determine
what and who we are.

The Law of Attraction helps us focus our thoughts in
positive ways to everyone’s benefit.

Speed dating has far reach the ends of developed countries and strategic cities where migrant’s in-flow abounds in all corners of the world’s metropolis in search for greener pastures. It is not surprising that the fusion of cultures raised at times differences when it comes to interactions especially in exchanging of marriage vows of various citizens with differences on spiritual approach in relation to religious adaptations, and practices.

The Christians whose foundation of the family is based in the belief that it should be centered upon their Savior Jesus Christ are cautious not to misguide their youth (male and female singles) that’ll lead them down to the pits of fire, “hell” (counterpart to the mythological Hades).

The global success of Speed Dating that is sweeping at present throughout the U.S., U.K, Australia, the Netherlands, New Zealand, and other famous cities has gained thru a lot of changes in a way, modern, to give each single person the opportunity to select a mate of his choice. It does not only refer to the consequences of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right, but in the sense of adjusting to each others values in terms of what his/her religion teaches.

Christian speed dating looks just like any other normal speed dating wherein the event is fun, no pressures, no pains, no fears, with no more than light expectations not to give up until you find the right person you’d push thru for another date.

How it Works for the Christians Singles (young or elderly)

1. When you arrive at the venue, you’ll be told to fill-up data forms, that includes your contact details.
2. Seats are provided, one side for the females, and the other for the male daters.
3. Daters (guys) move at random, and have three minutes to see each, and move on to the others. By the time you reach the last speed dater, you’ll know by then the number that stands out as your preference.
4. This finalizes the forms with emphasis of choices, accomplished and submitted to the venue committee.
5. Confirmed selection in the forms proceed to giving of contact to each matched pairs in preparations for further speed dating schedules for them to pursue subsequent dates for personal interests.

The Christians ways to seat dates other than speed dating take Blind dates, pen pals, solicited relationships, and marriages for convenience; also, work out for chance prospecting in relationships with strangers, not necessarily belonging to the same religion. It’s more of a one on one case, at times successful, provided there is a focus on the similarities of values in upbringing.

Possibilities happen not only in one country, but trans-continental. The sad thing, in some of these cases, due to selfish motives of some negative minds, tragedies happen in the course of time during the couple’s life if eventually, they passed thru to marriage stage. It doesn’t happen in telltales, but are “real” happenings, that passed on global news updates. For selfish ends, the woman usually as a generally discriminated individual of the human genre, is a victim commodity on insurance policy ends of the male, causing him to put a tragic action against this innocent counterpart.

Bottom-line, the best down to earth prospecting for a mate is to enter into some of the most wholesome venues around in Speed Dating. It is by far, the most convenient and safe for you’ll be ushered to select from many, then you’d run down to one chosen partner based on clean atmosphere and motives.

If you enjoy using the internet to meet new people online, there is a good chance that you have heard of or even used a social networking website before. Social networking websites are websites that allow internet users with the same interests, views, and beliefs to come together online. In a way, a social networking site is similar to a community or neighborhood. Although there is a good chance that you have used a social networking service before, there is a chance that you haven’t. If you haven’t but you are interested, you will have to find a social networking website to join.

When it comes to finding a social networking website, you will find that you literally have an unlimited number of different options. Social networks have popped up all over the internet. Of course, you can join as many social networking sites as you would like to, but doing so can be tiring and time consuming. Instead of signing up for a large number of social networking sites or the first one that you come across, you are advised to research and examine a particular site. Doing so will enable to find and join the perfect social networking site, at least the one that is perfect for your needs.

As previously mentioned, when searching for a social networking website, you will find that you have a number of different options. One of those options is likely to be FriendFinder. FriendFinder is known as one of the most popular online social networking websites. In a way, they are as just as well known as MySpace or Yahoo! 360. If you are unsure as to whether or not you would like to join FriendFinder, you are encouraged to examine the site. After examining the features, the programs, and the benefits of joining, you may find that FriendFinder is a social networking community that you want to be a part of.

The goal of FriendFinder, as well as many other social networking websites, is to allow you to meet other internet users. With special search features and detailed profile pages, social networking websites allow you to find an individual who shares the same interests, views, or beliefs as yourself. With many network community members posting their pictures, you could also, if you desire, choose a friend based on their physical appearance. Even though it is possible to do, it has led many individuals to misunderstand what FriendFinder is all about. Unfortunately, a large number of individuals believe that it is solely an online dating site.

Of course there are always community members that will meet, date, or even get married. All social networking websites, including FriendFinder, have these types of close relationships. However, FriendFinder is not necessarily classified as a dating website. Although you can choose to date other members if you want, it is not required. In fact, a large number of FriendFinder community members are not looking for a relationship, just an online friendship. This means that you should not feel any pressure when it comes to joining this popular online community.

Speaking of joining FriendFinder, you will also find that you have a number of different options. FriendFinder has a number of different membership plans. These plans start out as free and then increase from there. A free membership plan will allow you to browse member profiles, chat, and send private messages. Although there are a number of things that you can do at FriendFinder for free, you are encouraged to obtain one of their paying memberships, especially if you like the website. These paying membership grant you access to top of the line website features.

If you are interested in becoming a member of FriendFinder, whether it be a free member or a paying member, you are enounced to check out the FriendFinder website. That website can be found by visiting www.friendfinder.com. Although nothing is guaranteed, there is a good chance that you will like what you see, as well as meet a large number of community members that you may develop a close relationship with. .

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It is strange how many of us fail to listen to that tiny voice inside ourselves. There is no biological and scientific explanations to this ever present voice but you see, we all hear them. For some the voice is the all-commanding mentor. It is sad though that for some, this little voice has become their inner critic, or worse has for a long time muted.

It is an innate murmuring voice that we hear. If we would all remember, this tiny voice has been with us throughout our lives, guiding us to make the proper decisions. But during the course of life, when we have become too jaded and have forgotten the beliefs we once had, this voice becomes silent that we no can no longer remember how good it feels to listen to its guidance.

It was intended to help us but our negative thoughts turn that voice into an inner critic.

This inner critic is the nagging voice that tells you how deficient you are, how ugly you are, how weak and useless you are and how people dislike you for who and what you are. It will convince you to believe in all these lies until your self confidence is sapped and your sense of self becomes devoid.

You may try not to listen to this inner critic initially. Yet once you believe in its miserable denials of who you are, you are sure to have it win you over. You will then be convinced of the validity of its claims and so, you will resort to succumb to mediocre and somber life.

This inner critic lives in all of us as much as the inner voice of goodness does. Theirs is a battle to conquer your being. To deliver you back from the course of goodness and happiness or to the other end.

This inner critic will provide proofs of how stupid it would be take chances with faith. It will create proofs of how unable and incapacitated you are against shining. It will make you believe in time that you truly are worthless and insignificant. It would store memories of such failures to be recovered when you falter with “unbelief”. This inner critic will eat you up until it overpowers your sense of self. You will eventually be ruled with fears and anxiety over your amplified lacks.

Of course you are worth everything. You are so endowed with talents, skills and personality that would make you fit for the world. So face it with all things you have. Your inner critic may tell you otherwise because it would not want you harm. After all, it is there to make everything safe.

The thing though is that we don’t always have to be safe with everything. Life is a great, great weave of risks, only we have to accept it as it is. The inner critic has the noble intention of keeping you protected. In the early years of life, it may have materialized as the voice that told you not to go over the flames for it would burn you.

The inner critic analyzes your talents, your threshold, your abilities and traits. On a well balanced position, it would contribute greatly to your healthy disposition. But we somehow fail to recognize how helpful this inner voice.

There is no single factor that we can consider as the pool from which low self confidence comes from. In fact, it is the accumulation of mishaps and lacks in the past that we are failing to unearth and give due remedy. It is the outcome of our failure to recognize who we truly are and what are the hampers to our own growth.

Low self confidence is obviously delimiting. It would send us stomping on our endowed capacities and instead, take our failures as early defeats. It would confine is in our comfort zone where everything is safe from potential humiliation and further mistakes. The comfort zones will then make us believe that we must not go out from its four corners because out there, disappointments and losses await.

But even when we tell ourselves how harsh and messed up things may get, we must still not surrender to the inner critic that thrives inside us. We must at all rate, defeat it and show off ourselves to the world.

Low self confidence develops during our childhood. Unfortunately, many of us have parents, teachers, friends and enemies who are keener to our deficiencies than with our talents. They would tell us of our mistakes and kill our inner drives. These may not actually be said direct on our face but their actions and sneers are enough to convince us that we are losers.

Perhaps you live under cold critical eyes that know nothing of imperfection. Or maybe you are the underling of a brother who achieves in school, thus the intense focus on him and frequent disregard for you. Probably people do things for you when they feel like you cant do things on your own.

These are subtle triggering instances that would all contribute to your eventual loss of self confidence.

Because of such poor models and lack of attention given on you, you would soon find that you are really incapable of doing things when in fact you have gifts beyond your own reckoning.

Your belief on their beliefs would then send you blaming yourselves for all your failures. And at times, you would even convince yourself that you are also responsible for the failures of those people you have close contact with.

As a child, sweeping statements will be a commonplace for you. You will convince yourself of how stupid you are even without the reinforcement that comes from the warped people surrounding you.

And as the process goes on, you would learn to ignore the blind negative accusations that other people throw at you. And to add up more miseries on your already-piled up problems, you would learn to accept that there is nothing more to life but defeats and failures.

You faith in yourself by now is much too weakened. Therefor, you would not try to resolve your conflict on sense of self and would not dare plan how to get around this self-tormenting course of life. Solutions and helpful people would come to you though. However, your reactions would either be to push them away or totally disregard them.

Continue at this phase and you would soon discover that salvation from low self confidence is presenting itself to you but you are all too muddled in your own world that it would be way to impossible to cure the problem. Unless, a life changing miracle would cross your way.

Establishing eye contact with your date will let him know
that you are listening. Although you’re not interested in
his babbling, just look straight at him.

You’ll know when would be the right time to talk. Tell him
things about your wonderful self. Make your stories long.
If it seems that he’s not listening, maybe he is not really
interested in you.

Most men do not like silent girls. Other men do not like
very annoying and loud ones. Most men are picky, and that
is just the way they should be.

Don’t be afraid of this fact. All you have to do is speak
out and he will hear you for sure. Don’t be afraid to be
yourself while you’re out on a date with him.

Be natural yet not exaggerated. Keeping silent will make
you invisible to him. Loud mouthing will surely be annoying
for your date.

Sometimes, it’s not a bad idea to make the first move. If
you feel that your date is too shy, make the first move. It
may help him step up then take over from there. Don’t be
scared to take risks and turn it into opportunities!

Sometimes, most men can’t read signs. They might just be
inexperienced or simply stupid. On the other hand, maybe
they’re both.

They simply want the woman to come up and say a few magic
words. Now if you happen to like a man that obviously likes
you but cannot come up with the right words, make the move
and try asking him out.

It won’t hurt to try doing the first move. After all, who
does the first move doesn’t matter in times like these
since what matters most is for you to express what you
really feel for your date.

If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince the person what wants to divorce you to give the relationship another try. This isn’t always possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you have a chance of stopping a divorce. A divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage-before it’s filed or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least not anytime soon.

So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person to give the relationship another chance. If you have been begging the other person to give you another try or pleading for them to get back together with you, stop now. This might seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will make it easier for them to divorce you. But your pleading probably wasn’t doing anything but convincing them that divorce is a good idea anyway. Who wants to be around someone who is behaving that way?

If you can start acting more mature and behave in a more pleasant manner, it might surprise the other person and help stop divorce. Explain that you really don’t want the divorce and you want another chance in a calm way. The person already knows this so you screaming or carrying on won’t help your chances. Just make it clear that you’re hurt and very sad, and you really want another chance. You might be surprised how the other person reacts when you change your behavior.

You can also show a mature side of yourself that the other person might not have seen over the last several weeks and suggest marital or couples counseling to stop divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your relationship could benefit from it, too. If you can get the other person to agree to couples counseling, then you have precious time before they file for or attempt to finalize a divorce to convince them to give you and the relationship another chance.

During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show the person why they fell in love with you. You can remind them why you’re together in the first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the problems that come up during the counseling-and many probably will-that might be enough to convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but permanently.

When you succeed and stop divorce, you must remember that the person was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later. Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier. So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily than to have a good relationship for the long term.