Did your boyfriend break up with you? This is a rough time in your life. You are probably hurting and want to know what caused your boyfriend break up.

First of all, while you can use this time to look at yourself and where you are in your life, don’t do too much introspection. The truth behind why your boyfriend break up with you is that he had his own issues. You know what they say, “it’s not you, it’s me.”

You can spend time trying to get your ex back. If you are going to go down this route, you need to know the following things:

· Don’t pester your ex – when your boyfriend break up with you, it meant that you have more limited access to him. So don’t text him multiple times a day or call him a lot.

· It’s okay to flirt with other guys in his presence. It may even make him want you back more.

· When you do get back together for a “trial date” be cheerful and friendly but don’t pressure him for more than he can handle.

But, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over when your boyfriend break up with you, then you need to start moving on.

One of the first things you can do after your boyfriend break up is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart. You can talk about the good times and bad. You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names. But, don’t mail the letter! Instead, take a candle out and burn it. This is one of the best ways to get closure after a boyfriend break up.

The next thing you need to do is do a property exchange. Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in. Get the econ textbook you lent him. If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away. Don’t have anything around that reminds you of him. If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being. If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.

After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won’t have any communication for 30 days. This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis, but after a boyfriend break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.

It hurts a lot when a boyfriend break up with you. But it isn’t the end of your life. You can even look at it as a good thing because it means that you are now free to meet your true soul mate.

Of course, you shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that just because you’ve gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that’s something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.

True love can even survive a boyfriend break up.

Speed dating in the United States has spread wide in entirety all over the numerous states, and venues with dating ambience sell like a consumers’ piece of commodity in a large department store, or in a super mart.

Maryland caters to such speed dating for the busy middle-aged or younger professionals alike, the elderly senior citizens, and those youth in the Universities, naming particularly e.g., the University of Maryland. Speed dating has open a most favorable setting for fun seekers, lonely individuals, and especially those busy people who find it hard to deviate socializations with people other than their daily colleagues that bind bridges in-between familiarity and monotony; or, due to long-term acquaintances, posing for acknowledged brotherly/sisterly-mode relationships.

However, in most cases, those who patronize the practice of the modern-day speed dating are really those seekers for future partners in life.

Subjectively, a respective view of each speed dater could be considered depending on their motives, or reasons behind why they enlist in such planned groups or one in one dating. Various reasons lie behind each individual, and causes always go to the basic instinct in humans, “gregariousness” in relation to his environment. The need to socialize, and the core, is to get an intimate dealing with another of his kind; a friend, a life partner, or whoever may suit his need.

Classifying the Individual Need in Speed Dating from Several Group Categories:

1. The Teenagers in the Universities and other Young singles – These group go for speed dating; which for them, it open new experiences, new level approach as part of growth and development. Some visions at experimentations that go with excitement when experiencing new type of social approach, or atmosphere other than in their homes and with childhood friends.

2. The Corporate Professionals/Middle-aged and other Busy Young Single Employees – They are self-sufficient in their own rights, have consumed so much hours enclosed in the confines of corporate offices; and are accomplished contributors to the growth of their respective companies. They have forgotten they are also humans, only to find out later they had outgrown with age in prioritizing their career interests rather than on their personal lives.

Also, those other employees who no longer have the opportunity to go socializing for reason that they might miss their first encounters with their chosen career opportunities. Professionals who outgrown in age because of the responsibilities, they fear to neglect for it might devaluate any high rank post of aspirations in the corporate environment. All these are reasons; why in the long run, they seek speed dating as the quickest way coping with lost times, and capitalizing the greater chance of finding partners amidst busiest atmosphere in their lives.

3. The Senior Citizens – They maybe widowers, widows, divorced, and aged singles (in youth let time passed over) let alone to themselves because of this or that reasons. Speed dating offers a lot of chances for them to makeover for past and lost experiences. The widower/widow or divorced find it fulfilling to prospect at having another life in order to move on. And the aged single will find it exiting to experience this in his old age and later realized how silly it was to have lost such portion in life.

Generally, one has to figure out, what about having speed dating popularly favored in the 21st century society. For those aforementioned people in their respective categories and ages, speed-dating practice sounds relevant and offers par degree advantage.

If you’re single and feeling adventurous, why not try the latest trend in dating: speed dating. Speed dating is an exciting way for you to meet new people in New York. Who knows, you might even meet your soul mate or even “the one” that you’ve been looking for all your life.

Speed dating is formalized matchmaking the idea of which is for you to be able to meet and interact with a large number of new people. What happens in a speed dating event is that men and women are paired together over a series of mini dates. These short dates only last for a few minutes.

Normally organizers of the event provide participants with certain guidelines and sometimes they provide cue questions which they could their partners. These questions serve as guides to facilitate the flow of conversation. But participants are pretty much free to talk about anything. At the end of each mini date, the organizers will signal the partners to change partners by ringing a bell.

Exchanging of contact information is forbidden during the actual date but afterwards you will give to the organizers the name or names of the person(s) you want to have your contact information. The organizers will try and look if they found a match. If there is one, they will provide both parties the contact information and will let nature takes its course.

More often than not, entries to speed dating events require pre-registration and pre-payment of the registration fees. Events like these commonly take place in a nice place such as a nice restaurant or even a great, cozy bar. The atmosphere will depend on the organizers of the event. The event could have a formal, casual or party setting.

Some praises speed dating saying that it is a far better place to meet new people than in bars and clubs. One doesn’t have to think of pick-up lines just to introduce one’s self. This is really a very daunting task for some. With the speed dating structure, men and women are partnered and forced to talk to each other. Sure the time is short, but it does give the guy or girl an opportunity to talk to someone he or she likes.

The speed dating environment is also less noisy than those of bars and clubs. In speed dating, you and your partner will have a better environment to have a good conversation compared to clubs where the music is always roaring and constant interruptions from people.

Also, with speed dating you are at least assured of meeting people who are actually single and who are actually looking for a relationship. In bars and clubs, you can never really tell if the guy or girl is single and looking.

If you’re new in New York, speed dating is a good way to expand your very limited social circles. You can get to meet and make new friends in speed dating events, most of whom will be your age and share similar or closely similar interests.

It’s like attending a party where everyone doesn’t know each other. Surprising as it seems, speed dating doesn’t purely involve flirting with the opposite sex. There are actual and worthy conversations that take place in such events. It’s really based on how you handle the conversation and how you would handle your partner.

How do you get guy back? How do you convince him that what the two of you had together was special? This is your “get guy back” gal’s guide to making up.

First of all, you have to recognize that whatever happened, you were both at fault. If you cheated, he wasn’t giving you what you needed so you looked elsewhere. If he cheated, you were the one not giving what he needed. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable for the cheating. The moral responsibility does not lie with the person who was cheated upon. But the fault lies in both party’s laps.

Given that, it is important to forgive and forget. True forgiveness means that you let go of all of the anger related to the incident. You never bring it up again. You never let it cloud your relationship. If you cannot do this, you won’t get guy back for any period of time.

If you were the person at fault, apologize – and mean it. Too many times, after people say “I’m sorry,” there’s an “Oops I did it again,” moment. You’re not Britney Spears. It’s not cute. When you say you are sorry, you have to commit to changing. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you won’t get guy back.

Be prepared to chase him a little bit. This doesn’t mean sending him hundreds of text messages or stalking him, but you have got to show him that you are still interested if you want to get guy back. You can’t expect him to come running back just because you have sent out some modest signals that you are ready to re-start the relationship. Put your ego in check and put your heart on the line.

You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that he is only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged boyfriend. It may take time to rebuild the trust. If this is the case, you need to give him the space he needs to get to know you again. Accept that you have to take what he is offering right now if you want to eventually get guy back.

Finally, you have to know when to give up on the get guy back strategy. Sometimes, you just have to move on. If your boyfriend is unable to forgive you, you are in a position where the best thing you can do is move on and enter into new relationships. While this will break your heart right now, it may be the best thing that could have happened to you. Whatever went wrong in this relationship, your soul mate is still out there. Get guy back may stop you from meeting him!

For many, “The Secret” hasn’t been a secret for
centuries. It’s been going by different names. Every
other generation feels the need to rename it. To make
it their’s. But changing the name doesn’t change the
idea.

The concept of “positive thinking” was the last topic
and the “Law of Attraction” is the newest. But the
focus is still the same. What you think will happen,
will happen. Your thoughts will manifest themselves
into your reality. The words change, but not the
meaning.

Focusing on negative things will cause these negative
things to become reality. If your life and mind are
filled with anger, hate and dissatisfaction, you will
find yourself surrounded by those very same things.

Learning to focus your thoughts on positive things,
love, happiness and contentment will have the desired
results and your life will be filled with these
positive things.

Just wishing for the good things in life will not make
them magically appear right before your eyes. It’s a
learning process in which you teach yourself to change
the way you think.

The average human mind tends to focus on the negative.
Worrying about fears, whether real or imagined,
consumes much of our thought process. It’s part of our
survival instinct. Often this takes place on an
unconscious level, and we don’t even notice these
thoughts.

The Law of Attraction is the way to change your
thinking process. Regardless of it’s name, the result
is the same: Improving your daily life through your
thoughts.

Social networking websites, they are all over the internet. While many would assume a large selection of networks is good, the selection often makes it difficult to find a quality social networking website. If you are interested in meeting new friends online, you are advised against signing up for just any social networking site that you come across. Instead, you are advised to take the time to research and examine a number of different social networking sites. Perhaps, it is best way to find a network that is not only popularity, but one that is considered a quality site.

In your search for an online social network, it is likely that you will come across FriendWise. FriendWise may not be as popular as MySpace, Yahoo! 360, or Orkut, but it is still popular. In fact, its popularity has increased overtime and it expected to continue increasing. If you are interested in joining FriendWise, you are advised to research and fully examine this popular online network. As previously mentioned above, that examination should enable you to decide whether or not FriendWise is able to offer you want you want or need to get out of your social networking experience.

The only problem with FriendWise is that it is hard to get information about the site until you become a member. Unlike most other networking websites, FriendWise does not automatically state whether or not they are free to use. It is safe to assume they are free because their site does not mention anything about membership fees and the signup page does not have any room for credit card information, but it is still nice to know ahead of time. However, despite the fact that FriendWise does not automatically advertise whether their service is free to use, there are a number of different features that they website does touch on.

The goal of FriendWise, like many other online social networking websites, is to give internet users a chance to come together and connect. Once you have signed up for FriendWise, you should be able to begin making your profile page. Your profile page will outline information on yourself, such as your likes, dislikes, and hobbies. After your profile page has been created, it can be viewed by other internet users. Internet users do not have to be a member of the FriendWise community to view your profile, but they need to be to contact you.

In addition to making contact and joining the network of other FriendWise members, you can also participate in discussions held in the FriendWise online message forums. The online message forum is host to a number of different topics. Popular topics that are discussed include sex, religion, music, school, and general issues about the website.

There are also additional features that are aimed at providing entertainment for FriendWise community members. These features include, but are not limited to, battles, quizzes, and polls. The battle is almost like a picture contest. Two pictures will be posted and you need to choose which one you think could win the battle. Most of the quizzes available on FriendWise are made by network members. The polls are also created by FriendWise members and you will find that they are not only easy to take, but fun to as well.

If you are interested in joining FriendWise or at least learning more information about this popular social networking community, you are advised to visit their online website. That website can be found at www.friendwise.com.

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The words, “I’m sorry” can get us out of trouble when we’ve done something wrong or hurt someone we care about but the key to a good apology is really meaning it and convincing the other person that you are truly remorseful. Apologizing just for the sake of keeping the peace is not an effective way to apologize. In doing so the recipient of the apology will most likely see through you and realize that your apology is insincere. A sincere and well timed apology, however, will help to mend the relationship that was harmed by your words or actions.

The most important way to prove that you are truly sorry for hurting someone is to ensure that the hurtful action is not repeated. Apologizing over and over while continuing to make the same mistake shows that your apology is not really sincere. On the other hand if you really mean that you are sorry for an action you will take careful steps not to repeat this action. Apologizing for your actions is one thing but being cautious not to repeat your actions really proves that you are indeed sorry.

Being specific regarding the reason for your apology also really proves that you are sorry. Many people are quick to offer an apology when they realize someone is upset with them but often they don’t take the time to figure out why the other person is upset. Apologizing without stating the reason for the apology shows that you don’t understand the problem and that you aren’t sincere in your apology. This is not an effective way to make an apology. However, if you offer a specific reason for your apology you are proving that you understand what you did to hurt the other person and that do not want to repeat that action.

Another way to prove that your apology is authentic is to be sure to offer the apology in person. Having a third party speak to the person you have offended or apologizing via email or voice mail conveys a lack of caring. This kind of apology shows that you aren’t truly sorry for your actions. Meeting with the person face to face to have a sincere conversation and offer your apology is one way to really prove that you are sorry. It shows that you care enough about the other person to meet with them directly to try to make amends for your contributions to the disagreement.

In apologizing, if you want to prove that you really mean it, be careful not to place blame on the person you are apologizing to. Your apology is about telling the other person why you believe that you did something wrong. While they may have contributed to the situation, now is not the time to point out their faults. Instead take full responsibility for what you have done wrong. Accepting full responsibility for your actions and apologizing for them without placing blame on the other person will prove that your apology is sincere.

A genuine apology will also include telling the other person why your actions were wrong and how you intend to avoid hurting them in the future. Doing this proves to them not only that you understand you were wrong but that you understand why you were wrong. It also lets them know that you have already formulated a plan of action to ensure that this situation does not arise in the future.

The timing of your apology can also help to prove that you really are sorry. Waiting too long to apologize may show that you don’t really care and that you are simply apologizing as an afterthought. An apology that is made too early may risk being ignored because the recipient of the apology is still too upset to listen to what you are saying.

It’s important to give the other person a chance to vent their anger and calm down before rushing to apologize. After a reasonable amount of time approach them and let them know that you understand their anger and believe that it is justified and that you wanted to give them a chance to calm down before apologizing.

Sometimes it is not enough to simply apologize for your words or actions. It is often necessary to not only apologize but to also prove that your apology is sincere. A truly sincere apology proves that you are sorry by addressing the issue and acknowledging what you have done wrong while validating the other person’s right to be angry and addressing how you will avoid similar actions in the future.

There are three main types of dating abuse that you should be aware about when you or one of your friends are dating. The main types of abuse are physical abuse, emotional abuse and sexual abuse. There are distinct differences between the three, and when you are aware of what each means, then you will be able to identify it at the drop of a dime.

Physical abuse happens when someone actually does something physical to hurt the other person or knock that person off balance against their will. For example, if a man is upset at his partner and he slaps her across the face, then that is physical abuse. Another example is when he shoves her out of the way while walking past her. If she did not approve of this or is not in the mood for it, then it can be counted as abuse. In fact, there is no time when anyone should be pushed, shoved or hit. Other examples of physical dating abuse are when one or both partners are kicking, scratching, biting each other or throwing things at each other. The reason why this is so bad is because it can easily escalate into domestic violence where someone can get seriously hurt or even killed. If you see this happening, then run quick!

Emotional abuse happens when one partner calls the other partner names or puts them down. There can be emotional abuse without physical abuse. It is one thing to give constructive criticism, but to tear someone down or to belittle them, especially in front of other friends and family is not good at all. If someone is to point out something wrong that you did, then there must also be a solution mentioned, and it must be presented in a courteous way. No person deserves to be called any names or be bullied. Another form of emotional abuse is when one partner neglects the other partner. He or she either keeps them away from seeing friends and family, or they don’t even spend time with them. Either one is a dangerous form of emotional abuse, and if you see it, then run quickly.

Sexual abuse occurs when your partner forces you to do something sexual against your will, such as touching, kissing, or having sex. This can easily escalate to physical abuse like hitting, shoving, kicking, scratching, etc. If you see any of these forms of dating abuse happening in your relationship or the relationship of one of your friends, then tell them to leave quickly. Everyone will be better off.

Your prince charming suddenly came up to you and asks you
out. This is a chance of a lifetime, so you said yes.

But how in the world would you know if the date would turn
out fine? You certainly wouldn’t know unless it’s over.

You notice that your prince charming is quite nervous on
your date. It looks like he had taken gallons of coffee
before the date.

It seems that long silence always gets between your
conversations. Prince charming then starts to look like he
is going to faint. This would turn out to be a bad date
unless you try helping him find his words a little.

Maybe he just needs a little push that can provide him with
the idea that you want to make this date a memorable one.

Usually, the first date involves going to movies, having
lunch, or spending dinner with a lot of sharing. Dates like
these just need a little jump-start to be more effective.

Try suggesting some activities that involve fun and
adventure.

Let your prince charming know that you are okay with him.
Try helping him get to his words or unfold his plans for
your date.

Help him by telling the stuff you want to do and the things
you want to try. Places you want to go or places you want
him to see would be very good things to tell your date if
you want to loosen him up a bit and have fun on your date.

Help your date in conquering the limitations that separate
him from you. Help him break the ice. After some time, he
may be starting to feel okay and loosen up a bit.

Afterwards, he could then start living up to your knight in
shining armor dreams.

If you are saying “he dumped me. How will I ever survive?” mere words in an article will not give you comfort. It may help to know that while you’ve broken up, you are not a broken person.

When you’ve been in the position that “he dumped me,” you have two fears. The first is that you will never recover from the pain. The second is that no one will ever love you again.

Take heart, dear. The fear is real. The pain is real. But, the situation exists in your head, not in the real world. While one part of your life may be over, your life is not over.

You still have friends and family who care about you. In fact, you now have more time to spend with them. Many times, when you get into an involved romantic relationship, we lose touch with the other people who bring meaning to your life. You now have a chance to reconnect with them.

In fact, sharing your loss with them may encourage them to share their break up experiences with you. When you say, “he dumped me,” that allows them to be vulnerable about how they’ve been hurt. You will begin to see that your pain is not unique. You will also be able to see that other people have lived full and complete lives after a break up.

In addition to having more time for others who you care about, you will have more time to work on the issues in your life. Many times, when you are in a relationship, the activities you care about get pushed aside if your boyfriend isn’t interested in them. This is a good time to get re-involved in the things that matter to you.

If no particular activity comes to mind, then maybe you need to get a hobby! No, really, when you say “he dumped me,” what you tell yourself is that you are worthless. When you take up a new activity and invest in yourself, you prove to yourself that you matter.

There are all kinds of activities you can get involved with. The best thing to do is to join a group, class, or workshop. For instance, joining a hiking club will let you meet lots of people who enjoy the great outdoors. A ballroom dancing class will introduce you to people who enjoy the finer things in life. A writer’s workshop will be filled with creative types.

As you begin to re-engage with the world, you will lose the sense of desperation you felt when he dumped you. You will make new friends who share a common interest. And, you may even meet someone special to spend your time with.

The truth is that you will find someone to date again. Your soul mate is out there.

Your ex may have done you a favor by breaking up with you because now you have a chance to find someone who fits you better.

And, always remember, the best revenge when “he dumped me” is moving on!