Every relationship needs help at one time or another, whether it be you and your partner helping yourselves out or seeking outside assistance for your problems. The first thing to note is that it is okay to ask for help. You should not feel ashamed or embarassed to know that you need to ask someone else for guidance. There are plenty of resources you can use to get both of you back on the right track. This includes counselors, family, church, and community resources.
Counselors are a great resources, especially if they are used properly. You can visit a counselor while you are in a relationship, and even before you get into a relationship. You can also visit a counselor before you get engaged, while you are engaged and even during marriage. Church counselors and community counselors are available to you. You can have a church one and a community one in order to get a different perspective on problems that might come up. Financial counselors are great too. Even though a financial counselor might not seem like it has to do with relationships, it certainly does. Finances have a big impact on how the relationship develops. If the finances are poor, or if there is misunderstanding on how one partner does the finances, then there will be confusion. And with confusion comes stress. Financial counselors are a great resource to take advantage of.
Family can be a great resource as well. Talk to family members who you trust and preferrably are in great, long lasting relationships themselves. This is because they can share with you how they went through whatever experience you two might be going through. Family can also be there for you when you are going through tough financial times.
Church and other community resources are good sources of relationship help as well. Even when you both don’t seem to need any help, it is important to make friends with other couples in the church who are in healthy relationships and marriages so that you all can encourage each other and give each other help when times get tough. When church friends and community friends are there for you, it is much easier to find someone to talk to when something comes up. Community resources are also available such as help lines, crisis hotlines and walk-ins. Look at your local directory to see which ones are near you.